He is on the ropes, how do I TK him?

Ok, to keep it short. I was with a married man for three years. Finally, I was sick of it and told his wife. He (really she) cut off all his contact with me. I waited, I had given him the best ever and I knew most men could not walk away from that. He couldn't. He took me to lunch today and sends me txt's about how much he misses the . He is afraid if his fat wife finds out she will leave him for good. Now, I could have with him and make sure she finds out, but I am not that stupid. I know these low self esteem women will allow themselves to be treated like dirt as long as they have that Mrs in front of their name. I need to make him want me more than ually even though that is the biggest weapon that I have. I just am not sure if playing hard to get is the right thing. Maybe get him hot and then walk away saying, be with me or be with her. I'm not sure. I have landed every man I have gone after and now that I got him on the ropes, I don't know which punch to throw, Help!