Can anyone help me with my natural shy behavior?

Well if you hardly communicate with your family then it is hard to just jump off the band wagon and do it with a complete stranger. Try telling a old friend or a close friend of yours about your favorite times you had as a kid like for example "Man when I was a kid we went on vacation_____" or "Dude, when I was a kid my favorite sport was_____" or whatever.......and you might find that just a tiny little comment such as that opens up a long chat cause your friend will then want to tell you about his experiences as well since he is so chatty. People naturally tend to make an attempt to relate to one another. Sometimes to the extreme and that is called a "One upper" Any time you say you did something they are like "Yeah well I did that three times" or "Yeah I did that too and blah blah blah as well" lol Hardly anyone likes a "one upper" but it is totally cool and NATURAL to relate to one another by comparing life experiences or favorite hobbies, and so forth.